About This Course
Your Struggles, Solved
Choking during intimacy can be intensely pleasurable yet dangerously misunderstood. Learn how to transform this edge play into a safe, consensual experience that deepens your connection.
You're likely facing:
- Dangerous Misconceptions - You might be unknowingly risking serious harm by confusing different types of choking techniques and proper execution.
- Fear of Bringing It Up - Initiating conversations about breath play feels awkward or intimidating, leading to unexpressed desires.
- Safety Uncertainty - You're intrigued but concerned about potential risks, without knowing how to properly assess and manage them.
This course teaches you the critical differences between fantasy, blood, and breath chokes, providing precise techniques for each. You'll learn to communicate desires effectively using Lola's non-pressured conversation framework. Most importantly, you'll develop risk assessment skills that transform fear into confidence, allowing you to explore this intimate practice with both passion and safety.
What You Will Learn
"Breath play isn't just about physical sensation—it's about creating a profound connection built on trust, communication, and safety that can transform your intimate experiences."
— Lola Jean, Sex Educator & Intimacy Coach
Safety & Technique Fundamentals
- Different Choking Methods - Master the crucial distinctions between fantasy, blood, and breath chokes to eliminate dangerous misconceptions and prevent harm.
- Risk Assessment Framework - Learn to identify potential hazards and establish clear boundaries, transforming uncertainty into informed confidence.
Communication Skills
- Desire Expression Blueprint - Gain a structured approach to initiating conversations about breath play that feels natural and reduces awkwardness.
- Consent Navigation - Develop vocabulary and timing strategies to establish ongoing, enthusiastic consent that deepens trust.
Practical Application
- Hand Positioning Mastery - Perfect the exact placement and pressure techniques that maximize pleasure while minimizing risk.
- Response Monitoring - Recognize physical cues and develop instant reaction protocols to ensure partner safety throughout the experience.
By course completion, you'll confidently incorporate breath play into your intimate experiences with precision technique, clear communication, and comprehensive safety awareness.
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Lessons and Classes
- 1. Introduction to Choking
- 2. What Is Breath Play
- 3. Importance of Language
- 4. How to Bring Up Choking
- 5. Addressing Anatomy and Safety
- 6. Risk Assessment
- 7. Understanding the Risks
- 8. What if I don’t want to make someone pass out?
- 9. Why Is Breath Play More Risky
- 10. Fantasy Chokes
- 11. Do I Need to Learn All 3 Kinds of Chokes
- 12. Breath Chokes
- 13. Body Compression and Breath Play
- 14. How to Bear Hug
- 15. Breath Play as a Practice
- 16. How to Start Out and Build Up to Breath Play
- 17. Common Signs to Stop Breath Play
- 18. Guided Breath Play
- 19. Blood Chokes
- 20. Safety With Blood Chokes
Your Instructor
Lola Jean
Sex Educator & Dominatrix
Lola Jean is a New York-based professional dominatrix and internationally recognized sex educator specializing in breath play and edge practices. With years of experience developing trauma-informed negotiation frameworks, she's consulted for major publications like The New York Times and Vice, bringing her expertise on safe BDSM practices to thousands across 40+ countries.
Early in her journey as a sex educator, Lola recognized how dangerous misinformation about choking could be—seeing firsthand how improper techniques led to both physical risks and emotional disconnection. This realization sparked her mission to demystify breath play, transforming it from a potentially harmful activity into an opportunity for profound intimacy. "Vulnerability is the cornerstone of authentic sexual exploration," became her guiding principle, inspiring her practical, no-frills approach to even the most intimidating practices.
Lola's teaching balances technical precision with emotional intelligence, distinguishing her from educators who remain purely theoretical. Her unique "Baby Bear Play" framework helps couples find that perfect balance between intensity and tenderness, while her Intel-Based communication techniques ensure desires are expressed clearly and consensually. Every lesson translates complex concepts into accessible, real-bedroom applications.
Course FAQ
Absolutely! Lola Jean designed this course specifically to be accessible for all experience levels, including complete newcomers. You'll start with fundamental safety principles before progressing to specific techniques, ensuring you build confidence at every step. The course assumes no prior knowledge while also offering nuanced insights that can benefit those with some experience.
The course includes practical guidance on seamlessly integrating consent conversations and safety checks into intimate moments. Lola teaches specific phrases and non-verbal cues that maintain the emotional connection while ensuring safety. You'll learn how to transition between different techniques and intensities in ways that enhance rather than interrupt the experience.
While having a partner to practice with is beneficial, you can absolutely take this course solo to prepare for future experiences. The communication section specifically addresses how to introduce breath play to hesitant partners using Lola's non-pressured conversation framework. You'll learn to express your desires in ways that invite curiosity rather than creating pressure, helping navigate different comfort levels respectfully.
Most students report feeling significantly more knowledgeable and confident immediately after completing the course. However, developing practical comfort typically takes a few practice sessions with a partner. The course is structured to build your skills progressively, with the hand positioning and risk assessment techniques often becoming second nature after 2-3 practice opportunities.
Unlike general kink courses that briefly touch on multiple practices, this specialized training focuses exclusively on breath play with an unprecedented emphasis on safety. Lola Jean's approach uniquely balances the physiological aspects (distinguishing between fantasy, blood, and breath chokes) with the emotional elements of trust and communication. This holistic perspective transforms potentially risky experimentation into informed, controlled exploration.
Breath play does carry inherent risks when performed incorrectly, which is precisely why proper education is essential. This course thoroughly covers the Risk Assessment Framework, teaching you to identify potentially dangerous situations before they arise. You'll learn exact hand positioning, pressure control, and response monitoring techniques that dramatically reduce risk, plus clear guidelines on what practices to avoid entirely.
Feeling awkward about discussing breath play is completely normal and something Lola directly addresses in the course. You'll learn specific conversation starters and timing strategies designed to reduce nervousness and create openness. The Desire Expression Blueprint provides a step-by-step approach to introducing the topic in ways that emphasize mutual pleasure and connection rather than focusing solely on the technique itself.
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